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The Rebuilders Divorce Support Group:
- Weekly meetings (Tuesday nights at 8pm Eastern, 5pm Pacific)
- Meet other people dealing with the effects of divorce
- Get tools, training, and guidance
- Every week is a new topic
- No long term commitment.
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DOES THE REBUILDERS SYSTEM REALLY WORK?
Below you'll see why the Rebuilders International system really works, why it is unique, what we do. We will let this information stand for itself! And yes, of course results will vary.
The Rebuilders Background: 40 years of changing people's lives.
The Rebuilding program was first created by Dr. Bruce Fisher in Boulder, Colorado. While getting his masters degree he created the first version of the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale, which is now the standard measure of how well people are adjusting to divorce. You can take it for FREE here on our website (see below).
Meet Dr. Bruce Fisher
The founder of the Rebuilders program was Dr. Bruce Fisher (1931-1998). He was born in Iowa but spent most of his adult life in Boulder, Colorado. He was a popular divorce therapist, author, teach and a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. As he worked with clients dealing with divorce he realized that traditional therapy didn't work efficiently. He began working with his clients in groups and eventually found that there are 19 "steps" that people must work through to effectively "Rebuild" their lives. From this work he wrote the book "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends." We still use this book as a reference in our classes. Since he wrote the book over 30 years ago we have learned a lot and the program has evolved considerably. Now we find that there are more "steps" and that there are some elements that Dr. Fisher wasn't aware of or misunderstood. However, he still created a powerful foundation for the program that we run today.
The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale
The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale, affectionately referred to as the FDAS, is a 100 question survey that measures a person's adjustment in 6 key categories. It also provides an "overall" score of a person's current adjustment to the loss of a love relationship in their life. The questions are primarily directed to people that are clearly headed for divorce, in the divorce process, or are already divorced. When a person takes the test there is a raw score that gets generated for each category and overall. Then the scores are compared to all of the other people that have taken the test. This is the key, it gives a very solid score of how are YOU doing compared to others that have taken the test. Over the last 40 years THOUSANDS of people have taken the test. Having this many "data points" helps us accurately understand how well you are doing. Keep in mind that we consider it an "emotional weather report". It changes day to day a bit but we have seen historically that your overall score won't change much over time UNTIL YOU DO THE WORK. It is a common myth that it just takes time to heal after divorce. The test shows that this simply isn't true. Time scabs over the wounds of divorce. In order to truly heal you must treat the wound.
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Frequently Asked Questions
- What exactly does Rebuilders do? We move people through the emotional process and shift their mindset so that they can focus on their future and build healthy and happy relationships.
- At what point can we help people? The program is 30 years old. Ideas, exercises and topics have been tried and tested many different ways, on thousands of people. The result is a highly effective, efficient program. It doesn't matter whether you are considering divorce, in the divorce process, or divorced. It works for everyone.
- I'm in therapy. How is this different? Therapy and coaching are different in a lot of ways. Some say that therapy uses a model that you are “broken” and need to be fixed whereas coaching assuming that you are perfect and that you just need to understand how to break through to new levels. Coaching doesn’t look at your past or childhood, it works with who you are now to quickly learn new skills. Also, therapy is just you an the mental health professional. The group experience is invaluable and part of what makes this so life changing.
- I'm scared to make this decision. Yes, many people are. Being afraid is being human. Having courage is acknowledging your fear and moving forward. Life is always uncertain. At the end of the day we can only choose fear or choose life. Finally, consider this: it is only in times that we push ourselves into something that is unknown that we grow. Staying in the same place and doing the same things brings the same result.
- I can't afford this program. Is there anything you can do for me? We are committed to providing solutions for people at all budgets. Most people can find a program and payment plan that works for them.
- What if I'm not divorced yet? That’s okay. Many people find that being in one of our programs is like having a friend to be with you during the process.
- How often do the group classes occur? The Workshop classes are held weekly and last 10 weeks. We have classes that are on weekends, typically Sundays and classes on weeknights as well. We usually have a new class starting every few weeks.
- My situation is different. Why would it work for me? Yes. Every divorce is different. However, this program has been refined for over 30 years. THOUSANDS of people have taken it. If you apply yourself to doing the work we have no doubt that it will work for you.
- Should I wait until my divorce is final? If you are in a REALLY chaotic time during your divorce and you don’t have the time to devote to learning then you should wait a little. However, we have found that people outside of only the most chaotic times will benefit.
- You mention that this is coaching and not therapy. What is the difference? Therapy assumes there is something wrong with you. Coaching believes that you are perfect and that you simply have challenges to unblock. Coaching takes where you are and helps you get to where you want to be. Therapy focuses on your past. Those are big differences!
- How do I get started? Click on one of the buttons on this page to take the next step.
How Our Program Works
Step 1
Head
Your thinking, mindset, beliefs,, and values all influence how you respond to the traumatic experience of divorce. We show you how 95% of people think and how the other 5% think. We show you how you can step outside of the normal trap that keeps people stuck.
Step 2
Heart
Many people suppress, depress, or repress their feelings. Divorce brings so many "difficult" feelings. We give you tools to work through them, use them, and feel the "good" feelings again.
Step 3
Identity
In marriages people "lose" themselves. When the marriage ends they don't know who they are as a single person. We help you connect with yourself so that you can be comfortable being alone in your own skin.
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DISCLAIMER: The student results stated anywhere on this website are individual data points and are not guaranteed. Every student will have different results, and we are not implying that you will duplicate them. We have the benefit of providing support to people for over 10 years. The average person who simplyl purchases any "how-to" program may not follow through on what they are being taught and because of that we cannot guarantee any specific result. We are using these references for example purposes only. Individual results will vary and depend on many factors including but not limited to background, experience, and work ethic. All growth entails risk as well as the need for self care and regulation. If you are not willing to accept that, this is not for you.
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